tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post5680394322211538812..comments2023-11-02T03:10:39.674-07:00Comments on GeeeeeZ!: Who raises your children better than YOU?Zhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15989573357446569262noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-12430142525299295792013-06-05T12:55:51.332-07:002013-06-05T12:55:51.332-07:00Z, not your fault, this is a very important issue ...Z, not your fault, this is a very important issue that had to be posted.<br /><br />I have two beautiful young men that love me to pieces and I them. Trust me we have made up for lost time. I even have to get my back and neck adjusted after playing with them on the trampoline, lol!Trekkie4Everhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03226981394122557804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-36319320845940835692013-06-04T21:17:44.542-07:002013-06-04T21:17:44.542-07:00Man, Kid...when a country's kids are sick to t...Man, Kid...when a country's kids are sick to the core, we have TROUBLE. I was just watching FOX and they showed kids attacking teachers. And, apparently, this isn't that unusual in some areas.<br /><br />We're raising animals instead of good kids. And you're right, so many parents just don't seem to care. Because of everything from being too tired, lousy lives, or smoking crack all day in the basement.<br />Poor America..........how do we recover when our kids are so badly SICK?<br />Thank goodness most of us know great kids. I know several at the school I'm associated with, believe me, but.............Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989573357446569262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-46223657305654461962013-06-04T21:15:57.123-07:002013-06-04T21:15:57.123-07:00Leticia, that makes me feel so sad...I'm sorry...Leticia, that makes me feel so sad...I'm sorry if I hurt you with this post. And I hope your son turns out to show you everything you gave him when he's a fine young man with good character.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989573357446569262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-65594719264830465822013-06-04T20:43:50.598-07:002013-06-04T20:43:50.598-07:00Z, sorry for the typo or rather missing word.
Bu...Z, sorry for the typo or rather missing word. <br /><br />But yes, for a lot of working mothers, we are NOT doing it by choice, but forced to, due to pressure from husbands and MIL's and even the economy.<br /><br />I will never get those years back. Someone else saw my baby take his first steps, speak his first words, etc.<br /><br />It's a horrible guilt I will have to live with for the rest of my life.<br /><br />And my son paid for that loss as well. Trekkie4Everhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03226981394122557804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-77380686891996741622013-06-04T19:19:52.221-07:002013-06-04T19:19:52.221-07:00Yes, I'll bet she has something to add.
My bo...Yes, I'll bet she has something to add.<br /><br />My bosses wife is a teacher. briefly to summarize:<br />-no child left behind is an abomination. Forced to move the entire class at the lowest speed setting.<br />- A parent can get a poor teacher out of a school but:<br />--- it takes a while because the first 4 or 5 communications are simply ignored by admin.<br />--- the child usually only has the teacher for one grade, so most parent just hope next year is better.<br />--- the teacher just goes to another school.<br />Most parents don't have the time as you say.<br />Many are not even interested.<br />Many kids in various but usually low income environments come to 1st grade and don't know a-b-c, 1-2-3, red-green-yellow(God, hope that's right) or even know how to spell their name. Sometimes their parents don't either. Lady had kids whose names were Mali and Femali (Spelled male and female) or Quincey (spelled KWNCY)<br /><br />The libs are creating more of these type kids by the day, exponentially in fact becuase a mother who is paid to pop out 5 girls like pieces of toast, will result in 5 more mothers being paid to pop kids out like pieces of toast into zero opportunity democrat loving dependent environments.Kidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05287399775879832602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-3976738563698479372013-06-04T19:10:22.283-07:002013-06-04T19:10:22.283-07:00Kid, I hope Pris comes back and relates a bit of H...Kid, I hope Pris comes back and relates a bit of HER Parent/Teacher Association problems even 40 years ago! She fought!<br /><br />Yes, the Communists are winning but she and her friends did fight.<br />Today, the thought that somebody else will take care of and even pay a lot for our kids' lunches, etc., is beguiling and mothers are just too tired to fight the curriculum, too, because they're working, etc.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989573357446569262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-3538709801458810362013-06-04T17:52:23.224-07:002013-06-04T17:52:23.224-07:00PRIS, AOW,
AOW, that explains it. I didn't k...PRIS, AOW,<br /><br />AOW, that explains it. I didn't know any women except single who worked when I was a kid.<br /><br />Pris, <br />The breakup of the family unit is a communist goal and activity from the early 60's - children of the state-hilrod's book "It takes a village". (some commie actually wrote it). I sure don't want 'the village' raising my child. <br /><br />But you can see them separating the children more from the parents everyday.<br /><br />This is pure communist subversion and activism.<br /><br />In my mind, they've nationalized the schools to the extent they need to in order to achieve what they want. Mindless idiots. We're surrounded by them now.<br /><br />As an aside, I believe social media will take them completely into the communist mindset.<br /><br />Parents have 'some' control in public schools but it it literally rolling a boulder up a hill. The parents won't win this game.<br />This comes from current parents and teachers I know.Kidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05287399775879832602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-68096764174486353162013-06-04T16:42:31.709-07:002013-06-04T16:42:31.709-07:00Leticia, I was hoping you'd weigh in and I'...Leticia, I was hoping you'd weigh in and I'm so sad to read what you wrote ...but so not surprised that you saw the value in staying home no matter what.<br />Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989573357446569262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-23383216694398408732013-06-04T15:26:35.604-07:002013-06-04T15:26:35.604-07:00As a working mom, I remember bawling my eyes out t...As a working mom, I remember bawling my eyes out the day I had to leave my first child, my 2-month-old baby, in a day care. They had him 40 hours a week. I cried for months and resented my husband and MIL, because they forced me back to work.<br /><br />I fought them, but lost.<br /><br />I would gone without many things, if I had, had the choice to stay home with my both my babies.Trekkie4Everhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03226981394122557804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-6887614608341667142013-06-04T06:13:18.512-07:002013-06-04T06:13:18.512-07:00Beamish,
With the cost of living so high now (cert...Beamish,<br /><i>With the cost of living so high now (certainly higher than in the mid-1970s) either parent "staying home with the kids" these days is a luxury few can afford. </i><br /><br />And the government is loving that!Always On Watchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08192688822955022541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-78478903727206891172013-06-04T06:00:35.299-07:002013-06-04T06:00:35.299-07:00I don't know, Z. With the cost of living so hi...I don't know, Z. With the cost of living so high now (certainly higher than in the mid-1970s) either parent "staying home with the kids" these days is a luxury few can afford. <br /><br />To me, it's a question of necessity. If one parent can foot the bill for the whole family, then there's a choice. For most people, having kids is going to take two incomes to sustain.<br /><br /> (((Thought Criminal)))https://www.blogger.com/profile/17311656184275255223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-5883586891719150272013-06-04T05:35:28.972-07:002013-06-04T05:35:28.972-07:00I should explain something....
In the case of my ...I should explain something....<br /><br />In the case of my mother, she did not marry until age 34. Therefore, she had only a few more years to work until retirement.<br /><br />The reason that Mom's brother had a maid instead of his wife staying home with their one child: that one child had osteogenesis imperfecta (Brittle Bone Disease). She went back to work to help pay the medical bills; also to help pay the medical bills, my mother, single at the time, and my widowed grandmother lived in the same household and worked full time jobs. It's a good thing that all those women had jobs because my uncle died of complications of the chickenpox at age 33.Always On Watchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08192688822955022541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-24614669958729566832013-06-04T05:29:21.184-07:002013-06-04T05:29:21.184-07:00Kid and Always,
In D.C. and in Northern Virginia, ...Kid and Always,<br />In D.C. and in Northern Virginia, almost every mother who worked outside the home had either a maid or a live-in grandmother or maiden aunt -- or possibly a nearby widow who watched only a few friends' children until parents arrived home from work.<br /><br />Of course, back then, the majority of mothers in this area did not work outside the home -- except for teachers and certain school workers, whose work hours paralleled their own children's hours in schools.<br /><br />The wealthier families here had nannies or maids even if the mothers did not work outside the home.<br /><br />Mr. AOW, who grew up in Southern California, had a beloved Mexican maid (live-in) even though his mother did not work outside the home. Mr. AOW's father, a dentist, could afford such a luxury -- as could most "on the hill."Always On Watchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08192688822955022541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-30535643813217496012013-06-04T01:19:36.824-07:002013-06-04T01:19:36.824-07:00Kid, I completely agree with you on all of that.
...Kid, I completely agree with you on all of that.<br /><br />And yes...very upper middle class experience for me and nobody had a maid.<br />My mother has a slight French accent and when kids called to talk to me and she'd answer, I'd get on the phone and say "Hello?" and they'd say "I didn't know you had a MAID!"<br /><br />beamish...that was when men were men. You prove the point that it can be done today, too.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989573357446569262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-78732223583377617322013-06-03T23:43:15.134-07:002013-06-03T23:43:15.134-07:00During a tough economic time during the Carter yea...During a tough economic time during the Carter years, Mom worked a part time job while Dad had 3 jobs. During those times, my siblings, cousins, and I were watched by my grandparents. <br /><br />But for the most part, Dad worked his ass off so Mom could stay home.(((Thought Criminal)))https://www.blogger.com/profile/17311656184275255223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-89584402382088081142013-06-03T21:53:15.377-07:002013-06-03T21:53:15.377-07:00Kid,
I see you know of Common Core. You are so rig...Kid,<br />I see you know of Common Core. You are so right. <br />Yes, breaking up the family unit has been part of the radical left's agenda.<br /><br />Now, parents are being undermined at a quicker rate. The feds are already working towards nationalizing the education system.<br /><br />BTW, I never knew anyone in the fifties who had a maid. Prishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13797497106506468128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-57051666727495958262013-06-03T21:05:08.383-07:002013-06-03T21:05:08.383-07:00AOW "Z,
In those days (the 1950's), almos...AOW "Z,<br />In those days (the 1950's), almost everyone had a "colored maid" -- or a live-in grandparent or old maid aunt. The way things were." <br /><br />Really? I was born in 1950 and never saw or heard of anything like this.<br />Kidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05287399775879832602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-54122007263091350552013-06-03T21:02:12.294-07:002013-06-03T21:02:12.294-07:00There are good and bad in any environment. But th...There are good and bad in any environment. But this country took a major turn for the worse, and it's in the communist manifesto, when the break up of the family unit began.<br /><br />That started with lbj's 'great [communist] society;, moved on with the helen gurley brown women's liberation movement and culminated with inflation actually forcing women to work rather than be the cohesive family pivot point of child raising in the midst of "It takes a village" to raise your child as a communist.<br /><br />We've actually gotten to the point where the meme "the child does not belong to you" (of course he/she doesn't) has morphed into You have no right to try to raise your child according to your values.<br /><br />Very dangerous, destructive and at the CORE of any hard core communist subversive tactic.<br /><br />Plus, ladies, Mothers specifically - do you enjoy working for a living generally speaking?<br /><br />I think you screwed the pooch by jumping on this womens' lib "hear me roar" and "go get the bacon and bring it home and fry it up in the pan" nonsense - all for less money than your male counterparts pull in.<br /><br />You've been sapped. Acknowledgements for women who truely are meant to be career superstars. That isn't the majority.<br /><br />Whaddya think ladies?<br />Kidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05287399775879832602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-57017985013808888242013-06-03T19:55:25.210-07:002013-06-03T19:55:25.210-07:00TSWS...WELLL 'Said"...
Ed..I have a sist...TSWS...WELLL 'Said"...<br /><br />Ed..I have a sister who ran a 250 child preschool in Canada; the children all left at noon.."We are not a child warehouse" she said. And the children learned there and were loved and inspired there. That's a WHOLE different thing.<br />I mention that, however, to say my sis was home for her 2 children by 2:30 every day.<br />THAT is the ideal...working but being able to be home when THEY come home.<br />I couldn't agree with you more and I admire your mother. How blessed she was to have 3 boys. And don't think she ever lost sight of that! :-)<br /><br />Pris, RIGHT? QUALITY TIME! rubbish. If it happens, that's great, a special moment, etc., but to plan it with a kid, like "let's get along and let me hear your heart for an hour!" are you kidding me!? <br />YOU'RE A WISE MOM, PRISZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989573357446569262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-21051487637565388102013-06-03T19:40:52.765-07:002013-06-03T19:40:52.765-07:00Yes Z,
There is no certain time to be needed. We n...Yes Z,<br />There is no certain time to be needed. We never know what will come up at any time, regarding our children. You're right, quality time is a joke. <br /><br /><br /><br />Prishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13797497106506468128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-71331205432651313082013-06-03T19:15:00.622-07:002013-06-03T19:15:00.622-07:00I suspect that one wage earner homes are poorly su...I suspect that one wage earner homes are poorly suited to pay off two college loans.<br />My mom found flexible work. Real Estate, Tupperware. <br />Anything to get away from us three boys for a while. Ed Bonderenkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03724552853113809036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-8263091571811149852013-06-03T18:05:11.882-07:002013-06-03T18:05:11.882-07:00Is this subject a basis for the Political Elites s...Is this subject a basis for the Political Elites spending the money for their child's development a sure thing for Royalty Elitism? TS/WShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02294584351677488365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-27681422665225560542013-06-03T17:48:01.605-07:002013-06-03T17:48:01.605-07:00I worked for a company that forced us to attend a ...I worked for a company that forced us to attend a seminar.<br />The speaker was a psychologist or some sort of a head gamer.<br />In his motivational profit center gig, was a statement that stayed with all of us who attended; that was - the survey says - we are as smart as we can get by the time we are 10 yrs. old.<br />The rest of what we know is gaining knowledge. And that is dependent of how well we are developed by age 10.<br />So, begs the question, Who is the better developer and shaper of a young sponge?<br />The Mother who chooses to be a stay at home Mom that oversees a child's progress from crawling coordination, to walking, to puzzle working to throwing and catching a base ball or soft ball; or a day care with a room full of under developed tantrum throwing attention seekers, that put a child who wants to learn something, to sitting ina timeout situation for all, so no one will feel left out?<br />I'm sure I left something out but sure don't want to babble on and on. TS/WShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02294584351677488365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-1797864051034227312013-06-03T17:01:52.293-07:002013-06-03T17:01:52.293-07:00Yes, Ducky, the point is it IS always better to ha...Yes, Ducky, the point is it IS always better to have a mother at home. That they can't is another story completely and not the point of my post.<br />The POINT was that there is no way to compare children raised by mothers and those raised by daycare; to suggest there's no difference is FOLLY, believe me.<br /><br />that's all!<br /><br />Pris, you and Mr. Pris did the right thing, and were lucky you didn't have to work, too.<br /><br />BY the way, my sis and her husband travel in the Laguna Niguel beach crowd and she said it has been the HUSBANDS who asked her what she did for a living and who looked amazed and a bit disdainful when she said "I'm a homemaker"...the husbands! I think they can better justify having their wives out there earning their 18 holes on the golf course every weekend that way..no guilt if you slam others, right!?> :-)<br /><br />EVERYBODY knows it's better to have Mom home....Megyn Kelly's guilty, husbands are guilty...<br />Why not just be honest? "I love working and I'm hoping my time with my kids is enough" <br /><br />By the way, Pris...there is no such thing as QUALITY TIME, right? I had a friend with kids tell me "Quality time? Are you kidding? It takes hours for a teen to finally OPEN UP, who has time in an hour of QUALITY TIME we schedule?" <br />QUALITY TIME is like a couple arranging a date night and everybody has to be in the mood THAT NIGHT for conversation, for sweetness, for intimacy..it's crazy!Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15989573357446569262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5516627478339613810.post-12270344322436605762013-06-03T16:15:31.132-07:002013-06-03T16:15:31.132-07:00Well z, the consensus seems to be that it is ALWAY...Well z, the consensus seems to be that it is ALWAYS better to have an at home mother and working for reasons other than avoiding starvation seems to be out of favor on this thread.<br /><br />But mothers will still work. That won't change and joining Lew Dobbs lamenting the loss of the patriarchal order is folly.<br /><br />Just think of what happens if they stop working and stop buying things. Kapital's house of cards falls down. Ducky's herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14608115001116619877noreply@blogger.com