Showing posts with label children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label children. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

Teach Your Children....PART II

I just got an email including the information below.  I think it works very well with my Teach Your Children post below.....I think this is another thing that's really important to teach our children, don't you?

1. Name  the five wealthiest people in the  world.
2. Name  the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name  the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
4. Name  ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name  the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
6. Name  the last decade's worth of World Series winners.


How did you do?  
 

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.
These are no second-rate achievers.
They are the best in their fields.
But the applause dies.
Awards tarnish.
Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners. 



Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:   

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4.
 Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special!!
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.



Easier?   

The lesson:

The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials...
the most money...or the most awards.  They simply are the ones who care the most.  

The lesson being Teach Your Children to pick the right friends and to be a good friend, to honor good character and people with values you admire, and be helpful to others, etc...........another good lesson, don't you agree?

z

Teach Your Children Well

Teach them what we learned and what kept this country going for so many years:
Teach them that;
-America is a great country and they are so lucky to live here

-They should be self reliant and the government is the last place to go for help
-Immigrants who come here eagerly and legally are what makes this country great
-This is a Judeo Christian nation founded on all that that comes with it and that needs to be protected
-Always read and watch all sides of every story in the media and make your own decision
-Teach them to recognize indoctrination from the right or the left and to speak up when they see it
-The color of one's skin doesn't matter.  Ever.
-Marriage is a beautiful union of a man and a woman
-Killing innocent babies, starting from conception, isn't acceptable.
-Those with physical or emotional handicaps need more love than they do.
-The 10 Commandments are not the 10 Suggestions
-God will get you through anything
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There are many more things I think our children need to learn. What else do you think it's important to teach our children?

Thanks, 
Z

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Brats rule?

I just heard a little 4 year old tell her mother "MOM, don't DO that EVER again!"  and the mother said "I know, I won't.."   I couldn't believe what I heard!  And it reminded me that, yesterday, my hairdresser yesterday was talking about her sixteen year old son and how she can't talk during TV shows when he's around.   (SHE can't TALK in her home because of HIM?)  She also talked about some special school she's trying to get him into and how she's hoping HE likes it.  (I'm trying to picture my mother worrying if we liked something she felt was best for us when we were in our teens! :-)

I could list a lot more of these absurdities and I think you could, too.

When did kids start to RULE and parents lost their control and how did it happen?   I know all my mother and dad had to do was look at us and we behaved;  and they hadn't beaten us, we just respected them and knew we'd better shape up 'or else'...and the 'or else' was something I can't even put my finger on.  They didn't threaten us with a terrible enough 'or else' ... but we knew.  We'd not want to disappoint them.   I know I and my siblings weren't special, most of you probably felt that way;  so where did that respect GO?

Is this good for our society and is there any going back to children with respect?  Honestly, I can't blame the kids, can you?   

z

Wednesday, June 23, 2010

TOYS are TOO TEMPTING??

A group is suing McDonald's because those little toys in the Happy Meals make it just too enticing for the kids and they get FAT! Check this out from the linked article: "At some point parents get worn down," Jacobson says. "They don't always want to be saying no to their children. We feel like an awful lot of parents would be relieved if this one pressure was removed from them."

Maybe we should ban all toys altogether? Parents just can't TAKE the pressure!!
Boy, MINE sure had NO PROBLEM WITH PRESSURE. "NO" was heard, loud and clear...and our answer was "OKAY....darn" (and they had BETTER not hear the 'darn') And, darned if I didn't respect and love both my folks..........and still do. (I'm thinking they should kill the clown, too...he's kind of fun and enticing, isn't he?)

Would your parents have bowed to YOUR 'pressure'? ("but, I HAVE to have a HAPPY MEAL!!") or were yours more like mine. Why has it changed so much and is this giving in to our kids better for society? I sure don't think so.
z

Saturday, April 4, 2009

A New Priscilla's Post...Schools and Unions, the beginning:

I asked Priscilla to write a piece based upon stories she'd told me about unions and her childrens' schools 40 years ago. This is when things started to go bad....this is when Miss Landers left our schools for good.

It was spring of 1969. Most of the teachers at my childrens' elementary school had spent days telling the children about going on strike, forming a union and essentially, putting their spin on it. The students didn’t learn much concerning their curriculum during that period of time.

My daughter’s teacher did not engage in this. The reason being he did not agree with it, and did not join the strike. My son’s teacher, however, did. My son, who was eight years old, was clearly worried and upset, although he felt relieved when his teacher told the class she would not leave and go out on strike. He liked her very much.

When he had apprised me of what the class was being told, I went to the school and spoke with his teacher, telling her I thought it was inappropriate to be using class time on their union agenda and what they wanted to gain from it. That, after all, these were eight year olds, and they shouldn’t have to deal with this sort of thing. She was polite, but, noncommittal.

I decided at that point that I would walk with him to his classroom, instead of dropping him off, just in case. He kept telling me, it was ok because she wasn’t going to walk out.

Sure enough a couple of days later, the teachers were on their picket line outside the school, including his. The principal wanted all the children to go to the auditorium, but I told him I was taking my son home. I wasn’t going to have him warehoused in the auditorium all day, and the principal agreed that since I was there it was fine to take him home. As if he could stop me.

When we got in the car, my boy began to cry, looked at me, befuddled and said, “mommy, she lied to us”. I said “I know, and that was wrong”. I hugged him and we went home. I was hopping mad, and two days later I was on the sidewalk with other parents demonstrating against the teachers and the union. I had taken my son to a friend’s house because I didn’t want him exposed to this activity.

His teacher nastily yelled at me, “well Mrs. Pris, you’ve come a long way”, and I walked across the street with my sign in hand and told her, “I didn’t lie to my son, you did”. Another parent, a friend, had followed me and walked with me over there with the teachers while they told us they had a right to strike, as we told them this was hurting the children, and that public employees did not have a right to strike.

We walked back across the street. The teachers yelled and called us “scabs“, “go home”
“get out of here,” “you’re ignorant”, There was some foul language as well which I will omit. A couple of Moms yelled back, “go back to your classes”, but for the most part we ignored their insults. Many of us mothers were on the executive board of the PTA, including me, and had worked with these teachers, helped them out, raised thousands of dollars to buy equipment for their classrooms and playground, and generally got along great. We gave them a faculty luncheon every year to show our appreciation.

When the school secretary arrived in her car and tried to pull into the driveway the teachers pounded on her car, yelling at her, tried to stop her from pulling in, and behaved like hooligans.

The office secretary was a lovely woman who worked for the principal, and was not obliged to go on strike, but, they didn’t care. Children were lined up on the other side of the fence, watching all this. The principal was cowering in his office, instead of keeping the children away from this chaos.

He called me into his office to ask me to please convince the parents outside to go home, and told me, “you wouldn’t want to be called scabs would you?” I told him they could call me whatever they want, I wasn’t leaving and neither were the rest.

He ended up handing me the union contract to take home and read. I didn’t ask for that, and was surprised. Yes, he was a stupid man.

I returned it the next day after reading it until two in the morning. Among other things, included in the contract was a demand that they have more say regarding the curriculum. I explained that we voted for a school board to do that.

When the strike was over, my son had missed a month of school. They wanted us to send our children to school during summer vacation. I refused. So did others. The atmosphere at the school was never the same as it had been before. No more the friendly occasional chats between those teachers and PTA moms. We were treated pretty badly.

When the time came to plan the faculty luncheon we were informed by the representative teacher they would tell us what they wanted to eat. The luncheon was a pot luck provided by the parents. I told this teacher we weren’t taking orders and would do what we always did.

None of them ever volunteered to help out with the fundraising activities again. The school was now totally politicized. They tried to begin their own parent’s group, to edge out the PTA. They ended up with a parent’s advisory board, but the same women who were active in PTA, were on that.

The union was responsible for ridding the school of the dress code, which many of us opposed them in doing, and tried to stop, but it was out of our hands. The flag at the next evening program at school was no longer on the stage where it had always been. My husband gave the principal an earful and the flag was put back after that and not removed again.

All in all it was a sad situation. The union has become more and more powerful, and parents have had less and less influence, until today I feel parents aren’t really that welcome on school grounds, but tolerated.

In recent years, I picked up my grandson at school every day. The place was practically devoid of most teachers five minutes after the final bell rang. The curriculum is developed and put into practice as if parental concerns don’t matter. There is no continuity between school and home. Parental authority is undermined even challenged, and sadly, many parents have abrogated their responsibility in many ways too.

I have to say, I lost a lot of respect for teachers as a group and judged on a more individual basis taking nothing for granted.

I still maintain that the children are not sent to school to provide jobs for teachers and administrators; they are sent to school for those people to provide an education for the children. The politics involved in all this leave the children as merely pawns in an ugly and political game that is more about power than education.

Z: And, of course, I know Pris would agree that it's also become more "indoctrination than education". That seems to be the 'education' of our days. And you can see how it started.....imagine teachers having children see THEM in civil disobedience? Or, put a technical legal term aside, maybe it isn't that at all, maybe it's just plain forgetting about manners and how children should look up to their teachers, not see them acting like children? In the Leave it to Beaver days, a bit before my school days but not much, children looked up to their teachers and teachers relied on the parents for input and help.

Thanks, Priscilla...good insight, a true tale of how we missed the boat. Frankly, I'd take everything about life on LEAVE IT TO BEAVER over ROSEANNE any day of the week. In about every way. But, sadly....so many Americans took the slob's route of least resistance. Easier to scratch your *** than put gloves on and look presentable. Easier to let the kids just get by than really take an interest. I'm generalizing, but.........

z

Sunday, March 1, 2009

Calling all Parents..or Grandparents.............

There's a little girl whose family I know very little. I see the mother when she picks her daughter up at the preschool where I volunteer.

When I saw the woman this last week, she mentioned how much her daughter loves singing my songs and that 'she knows EVERY word and sings them frequently!'. She added "...but I can't CLAP!! If I clap Emily doesn't like it! I have to wait until she's finished with every song she wants to sing, and THEN she'll tell me I can clap!" I thought that was odd, but ...whatever.

Today, I complimented the mother on she pretty pink sundress she had on. "Oh, this is from Emily! She picked it out and her dad bought it, of course. She makes me wear it everywhere we go because she gave it to me. It's embarrassing to wear it so often, but...what can I do?"

What can you DO? I thought "How about telling her that you don't feel like wearing the lovely dress today, but maybe next time? How about telling Emily that you'd like to clap at the end of each song..?" I know. Emily will carry on if she tells her either of these things, right? Can't have that! (Boy, it sure never stopped MY MOTHER, right!?)

You might be thinking this is such a trivial thing to blog, but I felt moved to write about it because I don't think it's trivial....I think it's ENORMOUS. I think our children need to learn who's the parent. I think they need to learn DISAPPOINTMENT. I think it's odd if I sternly say a 3 1/2 yr old child's name in my classes because they're upsetting the group and they turn to me as if NO ONE has EVER said their name with the slightest amount of discipline in it. I think spoiling children is nothing new, but add this mother's "gee, can't do THAT, my 4 year old will be MAD at me!" attitude to the fact that our kids can't attend awards ceremonies in high school unless they won so their non-winning selves won't be hurt....and add that to the fact that so many schools don't let the young kids' games have scores but just change sides after 10 minutes....and you've got a generation of kids who don't know how to COPE!! How to LOSE! And, can we EVER really experience the joy of success if we never felt the feeling of losing or failing?

Am I being ridiculous? Isn't learning to lose with grace and dignity and a promise to yourself to do better next time and to strive for that, or being told "No" by your mother and learning to cope with that disappointment, or feeling the joy of winning because you lost last time...aren't those great things? Didn't America always champion those things before? Help me out here.... Tell me I'm wrong. I'd LOVE to be wrong. Thanks. If you agree with me on this, can we FIX IT?

z